Life’s Virtues for Job Seekers

What if transition had a positive side? What if it enabled you to learn positive life skills? The following is a reflection by one of our members, the kind and calm Mary Anne Usher.

As a job seeker I’ve been asked by many individuals, “What is your secret in keeping your sanity during your job search?” When being asked this question, the “Four P’s of Life” come to my mind: Practice, Patience, Perseverance and Positivity.

When I was an undergraduate college student, a statistics professor taught this valuable lesson. Early one morning a new mathematical concept was being introduced in class. Both the students and professor were frustrated as not one student was comprehending the new concept. In the middle of the lesson, the professor stopped and noted a few things we all need to do with our studies and when we encounter some difficult life challenges. He said, “Think of the Four P’s and you will never go wrong.”

1) Practice. When children learn to tie their shoelaces, at first, they become frustrated as they are not able to see immediate results. However due to children’s natural curiosity and determination, they will practice, eventually becoming agile with the routine. As job seekers, we need to practice our elevator pitches and perfect our interview skills. This will pay off in the long run. Your confidence level will improve and hiring managers will give feedback. Remember practice makes perfect!

2) Patience. Patience is also part of the equation; it is a virtue every person on Earth needs to possess. As a job seeker you had a great interview and sent the well-crafted thank you note to those who interviewed you. Then there is the long pause, waiting for the result. That long pause feels like an eternity. You start to wonder what you could have done or said differently.

Fate was my best friend several years ago, as I was at my “ropes’ end” one day with no prospects for interviews. Just like the play, Six Degrees of Separation, I had a networking associate, Phil, call me one day. Phil had another networking associate, Bill, contact him about a role he needed to fill with his company, Racal. I was at the right spot at the right time and landed the job at Racal. Patience played a big part with my success in landing the position.

3) Perseverance. This is the toughest virtue. I have heard many job seekers say that they can land a job in three weeks. As we all are aware, life happens—when we are making other plans. Family issues or health issues may supersede your search.

Learn to take the criticisms in stride and roll with the punches. The “Great Recession” of 2008 taught all job seekers how to persevere and be humble. During that period, I learned to knit. The benefit was tremendous. I learned a new craft, joined a knitting circle and thus expanded my network. My confidence in my abilities soared.

4) Positivity. This is so true. I had many interviews where there was no feedback. Lately I have taken things in stride and learned to say, “Next!” I look at each rejection as one step closer to where I want to be.

Living in the enigma of life is an art. Life—and the job search—does not need to be a veil of constant tears and struggles. We can rise above our tribulations by following the “Four P’s,” live a life of happiness, and find the job we want.

Mary Anne Usher

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Back to School or Back to Work?

PSGCNJ believes that transition is a time to improve your marketability. There are many online resources available to help you find either current openings or educational pathways that will help you position yourself for future possibilities.

Go back to work directly.
Although Robert Half, the world’s largest staffing firm, lists itself as the top online site to find employment, it also describes the benefits of other sites, most notably LinkedIn and CareerBuilder, as well as specialty sites like (for jobs paying over $100,000), and (if you have a technical background) in a post at:

According to an article published by Inc., the top job search engines are, as of May 2019, in order of relevance for employers (
US.Jobs (if you want to pay a membership fee to find gigs paid by the hour)

Go back to school to get to work.

Get back to work indirectly by going back to school virtually. Online sites can offer inexpensive and convenient ways to improve your skills and return to work more quickly. With optional certificates, in alphabetical order, online education options include: (now LinkedInLearning at
Microsoft Learn (

PSGCNJ offers monthly Accelerated Career Training workshops. These 2 1/2 day workshops cover self assessments, employment search tools, and how to network and target companies, prepare for different types of interviews, and use social media in your job search.

Or position yourself as a Subject Matter Expert by creating your own online class and posting it at:

Good luck out there!

—Debby Freeman

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Inspirational Quote

“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.”

― Norman Vincent Peale

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PSGCNJ Annual Picnic! June 24, 2019

PSGCNJ Picnic Flyer


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Dress For Success

Congratulations!!! You’ve been invited to interview for your dream job. You spent numerous hours of networking, preparing your PAR’s, researching your target company and now the moment has arrived to highlight your skills. Your budget is sparse and when you open your closet door you do not have an appropriate dress outfit to wear. What should you do? Go to Dress for Success!

PSGCNJ has partnered with Dress for Success of Northern New Jersey. Dress for Success is a non-profit, volunteer organization consisting of women assisting women in career transition. The mission of Dress for Success is to empower women to achieve economic independence by providing a network of support, professional attire, and the development tools to help women thrive in work and in life. Once you’ve scheduled an interview, obtain a referral (please ask Daphne Thomas Jones or Mary Anne Usher for the referral form) to visit your local Dress for Success boutique. The Dress for Success volunteers will work with you to help you choose a free interview outfit and will also provide guidance and support for the upcoming interview. Our members have used this service and were ecstatic about the outfits they have received and the encouragement from the volunteers. It’s all about Working to Get Women Working.

Dress for Success Contact Information:
25 Cook Avenue Madison, NJ 07940
Phone 973-822-3188

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PSGCNJ and United Way, Perfect Partnership!

United Way of Hunterdon County and PSGCNJ partnered for a successful training program held on 3/1/18 and 3/1/18. Congratulations to both organizations and to the Training team!

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Landing Story: Judy Sung Sil Kim

Congratulations to PSGCNJ member Judy Sung Sil Kim, who has started her job as a Full time Operations Manager and Recruiting Coordinator for Robustwealth in Lambertville, NJ. She wanted to come back to the next general meeting but cannot, so she has provided these words:

“PSGCNJ’s mission is to provide job seekers opportunities with encouragement, empowerment, education and inspiration to advance their careers. I can fully attest to ALL of these as I not only learned the essential tools, best practices and strategies, through the different speakers and through the ACT training program, but even more importantly, PSGCNJ provided a space for me to be (and stay) open minded to the different possibilities and opportunities and avenues and to let that truth truly sink in.

“The irony of me landing this position and role at Robustwealth is that I applied for this initial position (and another position close to a month later in same company) PRIOR and/or SHORTLY after leaving my job in January and PRIOR to my time with PSGCNJ – with a resume that HAD NOT been adjusted/revised with the things I learned, with no inspiring cover letter speaking confidently to who I was and what I had to offer.

“Yes, me “on paper” (i.e my resume, cover letter, LinkedIn) had also changed and evolved in my two months through the help of PSGCNJ.

“HOW I grew as a person — growing in confidence in what I can offer and the boldness to pursue bigger and better things (not settling and definitely “go big or go home”) and rebuilding my emotional strength during this time, and becoming a much more open and eager individual who will continuously grow and evolve with a great company — was much more important, needed and absolutely necessary during this transition. What also changed was my decision and research process in choosing this company and this opportunity which was in line with the type of employee company culture, the opportunities for growth and even the salary range (NOTE: At one point, I was mass applying to anything and everything and STILL yielding little to no results!!!)

“What ultimately changed was me and what sold them was ME in person (and on the phone interviews) that happened as a result of the encouragement, empowerment, education, and Inspiration from each of you (as I personally talked to you one-on-one) and from what I participated in and practiced during the various group activities. The “Me” I am now, is a direct result of what I did together with you all, and through your encouragement to keep contributing and being a support to others during this time and helping me to embrace this time of change and transition.  Furthermore, I have made a strong commitment to myself to embrace another one of PSGCNJ’s values of “we believe careers are an evolving, lifelong endeavor,” I will continue to pursue the necessary certifications in process improvement, project management and HR to support the growth with this company and anyone I work for. As I know this role at this start up with quickly evolve and grow in awesome ways in the next few months, I want to be committed and proactive in my own professional development on my own time and equip me with the expertise and tools I need to support change and ongoing improvement. ”

— David Milkes

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